We’ve all heard the stats. After a couple hits the 18 month mark (aka. the end of the ‘Honeymoon Phase’), all hell breaks loose!
Just kidding. Apparently, after the 1.5 year mark, couples experience a drop in loved-up hormones and problems start to set in. All of a sudden, that cute knuckle cracking thing he does makes you cringe and he no longer finds your snort-giggle endearing. Crazy I know. Who the hell doesn’t like a solid snort-giggle?
So herein lies the question – how do we keep the honeymoon phase alive and ensure those hormones keep raging on? Well, the bad news is, we can’t control our hormones. Those feelings of obsessively wanting to rip his clothes off every day will inevitably diminish — that’s just how it is.The key is making sure those ‘crazy in love’ vibes never disappear completely — aka Relationship Death.
Read on for tips on how to keep your flame a’flamin.
Don’t take each other for granted
Whether you’ve been dating 2 years or married for 15, you should never EVER take your partner for granted. What does this mean, exactly? Don’t rush out to work in the morning without kissing your partner goodbye as if it’s a 100% given they will be there tomorrow. Coz reality check — they may not be. Let you partner know every single fricken day just how much you adore them. Like you did in the beginning. Don’t just assume they know.
Surprise your partner
Surprise your partner. Keep them on their toes. This doesn’t mean you have to go buy tickets to Hawaii (although, that would be pretty awesome), it just means making them feel special. Make them their favourite meal, just because. Buy them something they really want, just because. Give them a full body massage, just because. These things don’t have to be saved for a birthday, anniversary or Valentine’s Day.
“You bring out the best in me. I don’t mean better manners, or a sense of maturity, or whatever else this tired world expects of me. I mean you make me want to climb roofs, run wild and act inappropriately, take risks and pursue my dreams with passion and integrity. Around you I start living.” — Beau Taplin
And I mean really make out — like you did in the beginning. After a while, our kisses go from overly enthusiastic tongue wrestling to little pecks here and there. Next time, instead of just diving right in to your usual sexy routine, surprise your partner with a bit of tongue action.
Let’s talk about sex, baby
Talking about sex is just as important as having it. A healthy sex life is 50% clear communication. It’s important to ensure you’re both on the same page, when it comes to what’s going on beneath the sheets.
Learn their love style
It’s important to determine your partner’s style of giving and receiving. Is your partner a gift person? Buy them a gift. Does they love touching you all the time? Be more physically affectionate. For more information on this topic, check out Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages. It’ll seriously change your life (and relationship.)